Confidence Building
Confidence definition
Belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance:
Example:
- His lack of confidence defeated him.
- Full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing:
- We have every confidence in their ability to succeed.
History for confidence
Middle French confidence or directly from Latin confidential, from confident (nominative confides) "firmly trusting, bold.
ways to build self-confidence
When you fail to achieve your objectives, it is easy to believe that you do not have the ability or you are not good enough. However, the difference between success and failure is rarely due to any lasting ability.
1. Present yourself with confidence
If you are lounging around at home with your family or friends, it may be acceptable to dress down and be a little unkempt. These people know who you really are and your appearance is unlikely to have a huge bearing on their thoughts about you.
2. Smile and look people in the eye
It sounds obvious to state that a smile will help you build rapport with others. It also sounds obvious to state that when you smile, you feel happier and more confident. Despite this, so many people do not smile.
3. Give genuine compliments to others
When you take the time to compliment others, it demonstrates that you feel good enough about yourself to give positive feedback to others. Don’t mistake this approach for insincere flattery. The compliments should always be genuine and honest. At first, it may take a little time for you to find the positives in others that you would like to compliment but it becomes easier.
4. Practice appreciation
Sadly, we humans find it incredibly easy to find the negative in our lives. It is not always as easy to identify the positives, though they are there. When you appreciate the positives in your life, you don’t just identify the things that you like; you take a moment to focus on how your life is better because of them.
5. Play to your strengths
We can all do most things but what differs is the standard to which we can perform the task. Throughout your life, you will encounter tasks which you are not best suited to performing. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about; it’s the same for everybody. If you spend a lot of your time performing these tasks, you are likely to struggle and your self-confidence will be impacted.
Confidence different level of age
children
• Do give children choices
• Don't do everything for her.
• Do let him know no one is perfect.
• Don't gush or offer insincere praise
• Do assign age-appropriate household chores
Teenage confidence
• Set him up for success. Every person is good at something
• Check out his friends.
• Improve your own self confidence
• Encourage him to open up. ...
• Give him more responsibility.
Youngster
• self-esteem is how people feel about themselves.
• Understand and grow your talents and skills
• Embrace your individuality, express your personality
• Visualize your dreams
• No matter how small, celebrate your achievements
• Success is a journey; with each positive statement you make about yourself, you are one step closer to your destiny.
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“Self-esteem is related to better health, less criminal behavior, lower levels of depression and, overall, greater success in life,” said the study's lead author, Ulrich Orth, PhD Self-esteem was lowest among young adults but increased throughout adulthood, peaking at age 60, before it started to decline
How to improve self confidence?
1:Identify your negative thoughts.
Your negative thoughts might sound like this: "I can't do that," "I will surely fail", "no one wants to hear what I have to say." This inner voice is pessimistic and unhelpful and will hold you back from achieving high self-esteem and greater self-confidence.
2:Turn your negative thoughts to positive thoughts.
As you pay attention to your negative thoughts, turn them around to positive thoughts. This may take the form of positive affirmations, [5] such as "I am going to try it," "I can be successful if I work at it," or "people will listen to me." Start with just a few positive thoughts a day.
3:Refuse to allow negative thoughts to occur more often than positive thoughts.
Eventually, your positive thoughts should be given more “brain space” than your negative thoughts. The more you counter your negative self-thinking with positivity, the more natural this will become.
4:Maintain a positive support network.
Connect with those close to you, whether they are family or friends, to keep your perspective uplifted. Furthermore, stay away from people or things that make you feel bad.
Someone you call a friend may actually make you feel bad, if they constantly make negative remarks, or criticize you.
Even well-intended family members who weigh in with their opinions about what you “should” be doing can be destructive to your self-confidence.
5:Eliminate reminders of your negativity.
Avoid spending time around things that can make you feel bad about yourself again. These might be reminders from the past, clothing that no longer fits, or places that don’t fit with your new goals of gaining confidence.
Though you may not be able to get rid of every negative source in your life, you can certainly think about how to cut your losses. This will go a long way in building your self-confidence up.
Confidence building
Builds trust- trust builds commitment which builds a quality product or service
Constructive feedback, coaching,
Fear is the main emotion that undermines confidence
1. Celebration of meeting organisational Opportunities to meet new challenges.Investment in learning and development Recognition for achieving personal goals
2. Authority in decision –making and accountability for the those decisions. People having the knowledge and skills to fulfils their roles
Tools of confidence
Some of tools of confidence are
• Presentation
• Participation
• Public meeting
• Campaign
• processions
Give yourself some space between you and the source of irritation.
If you are lacking self-confidence, there may be triggers which will make you feel worse. Maybe it’s your nagging mom, or even going on Facebook and seeing all your friends taking fabulous vacations and eating out. You may be able to handle this when you’re feeling good, but if you know it’s something that will make you feel worse, give yourself some space from it.
Stop comparing yourself to other people.
Choose words that represent who you are, carefully.
I recently read the profile of someone who liked something of mine on Instagram. It read something like, “blogger, cat lover, chronic pain sufferer.” Uh, what? When you use words like that to self-identify, you really become MORE of that thing! I’m not saying you should bullshit yourself and be a Pollyanna, but why…why identify with something so negative? Why not, “blogger, cat lover, strong, kick-ass woman?!” Your words are powerful, to other people and yourself.
Have a sense of humor (but don’t be bullied).
Consider the source.
The other day I talked about how a guy yelled that I was ugly at a hockey game. What I didn’t consider, at the time, was the source. Maybe he was bullied in high school? Maybe someone called him ugly or fat? I’m not excusing his behavior, but I can be at least a tiny bit more at peace knowing that the person who said it is very sad and insecure…how else could they be so mean? Another source would be marketers. They make billions of dollars preying upon your insecurities.
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